Sometimes letting go can be very hard, especially letting go of someone who means a lot to you. But if you are asking yourself or others if you should let him go, then its probably a question that you already know the answer to. A lot of people meet and fall in love with who they thought is the one for them. They shared great times together. Lots of laughter, joy, pain, tears, sorrow and their heart together. But it got to a stage that everything started changing
It had you wondering “what went wrong?” Did you do something wrong? Did you say the wrong thing? Did you act the wrong way? Did you not match up to the perfect girl? Did you not have enough confidence like you should? If a man you are seeing changes overnight or over a period of time, you blame yourself and wonder if you could have done something a little better to avoid the changes.
It keeps you down and wondering how you will move on and get going with your life. I know letting go is hard to do, but in the long run, its the best option for you, and for your happiness in future. You cannot change someone or something that refuses to change. By forcing yourself on someone, you are actually indirectly pushing them away. Don’t say or think “I’ll do anything it takes to keep him” No, thats setting yourself up for more disappointment and low self-esteem.
If you love someone so much, set them free. This true statement has probably been spoken a lot to your hearing because its a popular one. But its the truth. If they are meant to be in your life, they will come back. And if they don’t come back; then its not meant to be. A man who cares about you and truly cherishes you will not withdraw himself from you, neither will he leave in the first place.
Noticing the little changes in him that he’s not who he used to be will clue you in. Sometimes some relationships are over before they are over. In his mind it may be over, but he’s not sure how to break it to you. Some guys use this to treat their women in a mean way. He will push you and push you until you are at your breaking point. All he wants is for you to say its over, and he’s out of the door …gladly, singing “Halleluia, finally!”
If you are asking yourself if you should let him go, then let him go. Some things are not meant to be. Its a blessing in disguise that it didn’t work. In future, you will look back and thank your stars and God that things happened the way they are.
We humans tend to be down when things don’t go our way, especially when we are losing that special someone that means the whole world to us, not knowing its a blessing in disguise for us. Because if you see what God sees for you, you will be glad things turned out the way they did.
Don’t spend too much time pondering, wondering, blaming yourself or regretting things. Its not your fault, and even if it were, you can’t change some things.
You may find it very hard to want to let him go simply because things have been too great between you two in the past. You shared so much, he made you into a better person or he was just the perfect man. You knew without a shadow of a doubt that he was the one. Then how did things change and how do you move on with your life?
You may be very down, sad and even feel like your world is over, but the good news is those are just feelings that always pass. The time you spend thinking about him, worrying, fretting, crying, and just laying on your bed alone, he may be spending those times with someone new, or just out there having the best time of his life. You don’t want to waste your life on that. There is so much to see and live for.
Get out there, pick yourself back up and someone new will come across your way. In saying that, my point is If a man has changed or doesn’t want to be with you again, please let him go. It may be hard. I understand, but try as much as possible to let him go. Don’t chase, don’t beg or plead, don’t promise him heaven and earth simply because you want him back. Release him and let him go. Move on with life and someone great will come by before you know it
Letting him go is also setting him free in your mind as well. Don’t hold a bond in your heart for him anymore if he’s no longer in your life. The more you hold that bond in your heart for him, its hard for you to let go emotionally, mentally and moreso physically.
A new door can’t open unless one is shut. You have to shut that old door to allow a new one to open for you. The new ones that open are usually better and more lasting than the old ones.
There is a saying “Your best is yet to come” And indeed it is true. The future is always brighter than the present if you will keep your head up and just focus on the future/tomorrow
Set him completely free physically, mentally and emotionally. Do whatever you need to do to know in your heart and mind that he is no longer in there. Burn pics or destroy them if they are a constant sad reminder of what you both shared.
Delete messages and notes that keeps taking you back to the past. They are all baggage and hang-ups. Get rid of everything that keeps him lingering in your heart and mind, preventing you from moving forward.
And if he calls you to check on you, be nice to him. Answer him nicely but let him know and feel it in your voice that you are okay and doing well on your own. Some men are usually a lot happier when they realize you are still hung up on them. They derive satisfaction in seeing you unable to move on from them. I call that selfish. As there are men like that, so are there women like that as well.
You don’t give them that satisfaction at all. Remember, don’t beg, don’t plead. Retain your dignity, pride, self-esteem and keep your head up. If you are a Christian and believer in God, Pray. Ask God to help you let go. He will answer and help you.
Feel free to ask questions and post your opinions. There are billions of people on the surface of this earth, and everyone has someone that is specially made for them. You are not alone, neither are you created or doomed to be alone.
Someone out there is for you, and that person will come across your way sometime if you keep up the hope and faith. Don’t fret, don’t worry, don’t cry either. They do no good for you. The one you are probably crying over is out there enjoying himself and having the best time of his life. And he has the right to that.
Guess what? You also have the right to be strong, happy, full of life and hopeful that the right person will come your way soon!