Have you ever been told this..”Wow, you are so lucky!”, “I wish I had what you have”, “You just seem to have it all”? And how many of your friends or family really envy your relationship? Well not in a bad way but good envy? It leaves you wondering how you got so lucky!
Do you get so carried away atimes and take what you have for granted? Maybe he loves you so much that he would do anything for you, and you use this to take some advantage of him? Are you a bit guilty of that?
In some relationships, when a man clearly loves a woman to a fault, (or other way round), some may use this to treat the one who loves them a lot unfairly. If you do this, please let it stop. He/she may be enduring it, taking it all in for the sake of the love they have for you, but it does get to a stage when people do have enough.
He could be able to take you to the moon and back, buy you the best and most expensive gifts you could ever dream of, and even close the runway down for your sake, but looking deep down, do you reciprocate this to him? My post here is about those who take what they have for granted. If you are a little guilty or guilty as charged, keep reading. But its important to change.
I have had that feeling before…that “he’ll never leave nor change no matter what I do or how I treat him”. There was a guy that used to be so in love with me. When I say “so in love” I mean so in love, so much that when I hurt him, he cries like a baby. And then after crying, he goes out, and buys gifts for me. One day he was so hurt, and I felt bad for him cause he was crying. It broke my heart. Before I could say anything, he was out of the door. I didn’t know where he was heading or why.
He came back about an hour later, didn’t speak to me. He only dropped a small jewelry case on the couch beside me. I looked at him, looked at the case and wondered what was going on. He went to the kitchen and started making himself some meal.
I opened the case and saw a beautiful gold necklace. I was shocked that he would go out after the way I treated him, and buy me a gift! Like, I wasn’t expecting it, and it made me feel even more guilty. I asked him why he did what he did, and he said he loves me so much and would do anything for me.
I sighed. I didn’t want him to buy me gifts to compensate for how I treated him. It really hurt me and I asked him to keep it in the meantime.
My point here is when someone loves you a great deal, they will do anything in their power to make you happy. When you treat them bad, they hurt. When you are unhappy, they hurt. When they see you hurting because you hurt them, they hurt even harder! That is true love.
You shouldn’t take this for granted at all. True love is real but sometimes, it can be a once in a lifetime opportunity for some. What you take for granted could be what someone else truly wants and is praying so much to have.
This applies to everything else, not only relationships. It applies to your siblings who will do anything to make you happy because they love you so much. Or that cousin/nephew of yours who is always hanging on your coat tail and would go to the moon for you. It could be a friend who cares so much about you that they always want you around, always call you for advice and you are the one they always think of when it matters. Don’t take these people for granted.
Even more importantly, your parents, don’t take them for granted as well. They may be getting old and grey, but they still need you. Whether in physical form, mental form or just a quick call to let them know you love them. They are here today, but may not be here tomorrow. You don’t want to have any regrets. Your parents worked hard to give you a life and a future.
When you were a little girl/boy, you looked up to them, they carried you everywhere, bought you what you wanted and would fight the lions to make sure you were ok. Do you take them for granted now that you are on your own and doing well by yourself? Make amends.
There were two friends who seemed to adore each other and would tell each other everything. Let’s call them Bella and Cassandra (Cass). Bella seemed to have everything going for her. The almost perfect relationship, family, kids and career. She was favored and blessed. Cass on the other hand didn’t have as much as Bella had. In fact Cass lucked out in relationships. She couldn’t hold one. She was envious of Bella, but didn’t show it outwardly.
Bella who trusted Cass a lot would tell Cass everything. Cass listened cheerfully but inside she was dying of envy. Bella got so spoilt by her husband, so much that she started taking him for granted. She would even tell Cass how easy and a fool for love her husband had become.
Cass thought this was a perfect advantage for her, and she sneaked her way into Bella’s husband’s life. She told him everything his wife told her. Bella’s husband (lets call him John) didn’t want to believe it at first, but Cass started to give him evidences of what Bella had said and how she’d put him down. John was disappointed but he still loved Bella.
The more this happened, the more Cass went to speak to John, and before you knew it, Bella and John were seeing each other secretly. What Bella’s husband used to do for Bella became what he started to do for Cass. Then Bella ran to Cass in tears and told her how her husband had changed and had stopped looking after her.
Cass sympathized with her and assured her it was only a phase, and it shall pass:) Ha, some friends. Then one day, Bella caught Cass and John in bed together. Her whole world came crashing down at that point, and she passed out, so to speak. When she came to at the hospital, the four eyes that were looking down into hers were Cass’s and John’s. She screamed!
After much calming down, and in tears, Bella turned to her friend and asked her why she betrayed her after she trusted her enough to confide in her. Cass replied that she didn’t want to do what she did, and she felt bad that she did it. But she told Bella that her constant complaint about her husband was what pushed her to do what she did. She said Bella knew she was single and desperately looking for a man. That Bella had everything going for her yet she complained that her husband was too soft, too easy, a fool for love. She also said what Bella said about two days before she (cass) went to speak to John actually made her do it. Bella asked her what she’d said.
Cass reminded her that she’d said this “Cass, sometimes I feel so lucky, too lucky that I just wish someone else will have some of what I have. I mean, its a lot. Too much. He’s spoiling me so much and its a little scary atimes” Something along those lines. Bella was confused and asked Cass what was wrong in what she said. Cass replied that Bella basically gave her the go ahead to take the plunge in getting some of what she was getting from John. Bella cried more. She was horrified.
In short, Bella didn’t know that Cass was that sort of friend. She confided in Cass and poured her heart out to her only to have cass turn around and betray her. Do I think what Cass did was right? Absolutely not! That’s wrong on all levels. No matter how much a friend boasts, they are still your friend. But there are friends like Cass out there everywhere. Many of you have had similar friends in the past or still have them.
One, you don’t need friends like that in your life at all. They are toxic. Two, Bella took John for granted. Not only did she take him for granted at home, she went as far as telling her friends all his weak points. So what if your husband loves you a lot to spoil you a lot? Its ok to tell friends your husband loves you, but you don’t need to go into all the nitty gritties! Going into details does make others jealous or feel that you are rubbing your luck/blessings in their face.
If your man cherishes and adores you, appreciate it. You just never know who is out there, waiting, watching for something little to happen, and they will take that advantage to grab what you are so taking for granted. Don’t lose your precious gem to another.
Many don’t understand how precious a gem is until someone else has it. The gem you so despise or take for granted is the same gem someone else will polish every hour, everyday and look after like its the best thing that ever happened to them.
If you are reading this and are used to taking the men in your life, your good friends, your parents or your siblings for granted, make amends today. Show them, tell them how much you appreciate their love. Start giving back as much as you receive. Don’t let your precious gem get away! Hang unto it, polish it, clean it, pamper it, and its sure to be yours forever!